The 5 Love Languages Explained-Horror Movies Might Satisfy Them All

Although horror as a love language sounds counterintuitive it is actually intrinsically reasonable and might just make you smarter than the average person.

We all have our unique love language. The markers developed by a marriage counselor and writer Gary Chapman in his book The 5 Love Languages are a touchstone for starting conversations and defining needs in a partner. It is very important to find someone that speaks the same love language as you. Just ask all the horny Love Islanders. For some(read always men) that language is about physical touch. For others, they really need to hear the words. Simply being present when together is enough to keep many couples together while a select group needs gifts and targeted acts of service to feel complete.

Although not one of the recognized 5 love languages, any scary movie fan will tell you horror is essential. If their significant other hates horror movies it’s a major problem. Appreciation for the weird, bloody, macabre, and twisted is a prerequisite to enter into the sacred bond of love. Here’s why more than any other genre, that is the case and how to introduce someone to horror when they claim they don’t like it.

The 5 Love Languages Explained

The 5 love languages everyone knows right now are essentially the blueprint to someone’s heart. If you find the right combination, the doors to their heart open wide. The first of the recognized languages are words of affirmation. The phrase actions speak louder than words mean nothing to those who fall into this group. They don’t care as much if you get your dirty clothes in the hamper as long as you tell them how much you appreciate their picking up after you. This isn’t entirely sure, of course, but words of affirmation are about letting your partner know you care about them. As a result, you find them desirable and respect them.

Receiving gifts is next. Despite the title, this isn’t the love language of the greedy golddigger. The gifts in question here are things like picking up a small bouquet on the way home or swinging by the store to pick up their favorite coffee creamer. It’s about thoughtful gifts that show you listen and care.

Physical touch can be about sex, but more times than not, it is about proximity. People with physical touch as one of their languages need snuggling, hand-holding, and hugging to feel connected. When they are cuddled up with their honey, they feel stronger and more sure of themselves and their relationship. Absence does not make the heart grow fonder for these folks.

Acts of Service is one of the easiest to provide and encompasses several of the languages in one. Acts of service are things like mowing the lawn, doing an extra load of laundry, filling up your car with gas, or picking up groceries so your significant other can just come home after a long day. It is about listening and being present. When your partner does one of these things, they give you the gift of time and appreciation.

Lastly, quality time is vital to many. The chance to unplug from your phones, work, and the pressures of the outside world and be together is important to many. For some people, they feel as if they spend decades together without ever understanding them. Quality time is the remedy for that. Listening and being heard is the big key here.

How horror can be a love language

For fans of horror movies, the genre offers them a chance to escape their realities, get a jolt of adrenaline, and cozy up with their partners. Yet, strangely the genre intended to scare and horrify and actually make couples closer. In many ways, lovers of horror movies find all of the 5 Love Languages within the two hours of the best films. Here’s how horror movies can enhance all of the languages.

Nothing says love like starting a dialogue about what you would do to protect your partner if the Purge came calling. There are no more powerful words of affirmation than I would protect you with my life. It sounds bonkers but devising a strategy for the zombie apocalypse is not only a sound practice but can bring you closer. It involves the problem-solving parts of your brain, and the team aspect brings you closer. Critical thinking and teamwork are potent cocktails for even those who aren’t into horror. Making plans together is a sure-fire way to get to know what is important to your partner. Pick a horror-comedy like Shawn of the Dead to work on this, and in no time, you will be discussing survival lists and devotion.

Receiving gifts and acts of service can be easily achieved for the horror fan. Bring home some candy and popcorn for a good binge. Grab a good bottle of wine to go with the pizza and place the order without being told. If your partner likes sports movies, try The Battery to ease them into the genre. It shows you care about them, and you might find a good compromise. Tap into your survival skills by bringing home some waterproof matches and bottled water. The gift of life is the biggest present one can give. Horror-themed nights, including home-cooked meals pairing with a frightening flick show, you are trying to meet them halfway. Believe it or not, there are tons of simple recipes to create and delicious to consume.

Quality time and physical touch are easy to achieve, and every adolescent knows, scary movies are gateways for every burgeoning romance. Holding each other close and providing comfort that they aren’t alone is a mainstay of the dating world. There’s a reason Netflix and chill is a thing. Tubi has practically become the horror fans on a budget best friend, and Shudder has become a juggernaut of streaming horror weirdness. Streaming a scary movie with the lights off and your lovebug next to you is guaranteed to have a happy ending. A horror romance like Warm Bodies or an excellent haunted house flick like The Innkeepers are good choices.

There have been countless studies on the psychology of the horror movie fan. Are they psychopaths? Do they lack empathy and have too much aggression? Are they predominantly male? All of these things have been posited but unproven. One study found horror fans were more resilient during the pandemic. For us horror lovers, we know we aren’t sickos. We are actually some of the smartest, most loyal folks around. There is no other way to explain why we keep lining up for the billionth installment of Halloween. Whether your sweetie is into horror or not, you can find a way to satisfy everyone’s love language.